Help your child cultivate real, lasting confidence! InKid Confidence, a licensed clinical psychologist and parenting expert offers practical, evidence-based parenting strategies to help kids foster satisfying relationships, develop competence, and make choices that fit who they are and want to become.

As a parent, it’s heartbreaking to hear your child say negative things about themselves. But as children grow older and begin thinking about the world in more complex ways, they also become more self-critical. Alarmingly, studies show that self-esteem peaks during the preschool years, only to take a sharp nosedive as children head into their teens. So, how can you turn the tide on this upsetting trend and help your child build genuine self-esteem?

With this guide, you’ll learn that self-esteem isn’t about telling kids they're “special.” It’s about helping them embrace the freedom that comes with aquiet ego—a way of being in the world that isn't preoccupied with self-judgment, and instead embraces a compassionate view of oneself and others that allows for both present awareness and personal growth. When kids are less focused on evaluating and comparing themselves with others, they are freer to empathize with others, embrace learning, and connect with the values that are bigger than themselves.

You’ll also discover how your child’s fundamental needs forconnection,competence, andchoiceare essential for self-esteem. Connection involves building meaningful and satisfying relationships that create a sense of belonging. Competence means building tangible skills. And choice is about being able to make decisions, figure out what matters, and choose to act in ways that are consistent with personal values. When children are able to fulfill these three basic needs, the question of “Am I good enough?” is less likely to come up.

If your child is suffering from low self-esteem, you need a nuanced parenting approach. Let this book guide you as you help your child create unshakeable confidence and lasting well-being.

帮助你的孩子培养真正的、持久的自信! 在《孩子的自信》中，一位有执照的临床心理学家和育儿专家提供了实用的、以证据为基础的育儿策略，帮助孩子培养令人满意的关系，发展能力，并做出适合他们自己和想要成为的选择。

作为父母，听到你的孩子说关于自己的负面事情是令人心碎的。但是，随着孩子长大，开始以更复杂的方式思考世界，他们也变得更加自我批评。令人震惊的是，研究表明，自尊心在学龄前时期达到顶峰，但当孩子们进入十几岁时，自尊心却急剧下降。那么，你如何才能扭转这种令人不安的趋势，帮助你的孩子建立真正的自尊？

通过本指南，您将了解到自尊并不是要告诉孩子他们是 "特别的"。它是关于帮助他们拥抱自由，这种自由来自于平静的自我--一种不专注于自我评判的处世方式，而是拥抱一种对自己和他人的同情心，允许当前的意识和个人成长。当孩子们不那么专注于评估和与他人比较时，他们就能更自由地与他人共情，接受学习，并与比自己更大的价值相联系。

你还会发现你的孩子对联系、能力和选择的基本需求是如何对自尊心至关重要的。联系包括建立有意义的、令人满意的关系，创造一种归属感。能力意味着建立有形的技能。而选择是指能够做出决定，弄清楚什么是重要的，并选择符合个人价值的行动方式。当孩子们能够满足这三种基本需求时，"我够好吗？"的问题就不太可能出现了。

如果你的孩子有自卑感，你需要一种细致入微的育儿方法。让这本书指导你，帮助你的孩子建立不可动摇的信心和持久的幸福感。